Distraction is the key

So in last week’s blog I wrote about the ongoing situation of lockdown and the impact that it is having on Bonnie. I briefly touched on the OCD issues but today I wanted to write more about this, in particular because I feel that my last blog painted a rosy version of some of the issues that Bonnie faces and yet I am fully aware that I should not be blase about some of these points, OCD in particular.

Bonnie has received therapy in the past to help her deal with her OCD issues ,you will also be familiar from previous blogs that the therapy did not go so well and caused Bonnie more issues than it solved, which means that she feels that if she does not do certain things in a certain routine then bad things will happen. At the moment the majority of us have daily, if not hourly, concerns worrying about our loved ones as the worrying levels of people losing their life due to COVID19 continue to happen around us out of our control. Now imagine if you felt that by following a certain act or routine that you could keep those loved ones safe, this is what Bonnie does. Currently the situation means that statistically something happening to one of her family members is an increased chance from normal so her OCD is higher than it previously has been.

The issues regarding the washing of clothes, as I mentioned last week is acceptable. It is quite right that at the moment we keep on top of our hygiene including the washing of hands and whilst on first appearances it would be perceived that Bonnie has a keep grip on her OCD I have noticed numerous changes within her schedule that make me aware of a deeper issue. Not only are clothes removed from her room but a number of items, books, makeup, shoes, things that are placed in the hall outside her door. I appreciate that it is a small price to pay for giving her some peace of mind, but eventually after a week or so more items seem to live in the hall rather than her room. Yesterday we took time to replace the items one by one in a neat order but I am left wondering how long it will be before they return to the hall.

One of the hardest ones for me to deal with is her issue of taking the toilet roll, at night, and throwing it down the side of the vanity cupboard in the bathroom. This can be rather frustrating if you get up in the middle of the night, and lets face it these days I always need to get up. The toilet roll is lodged down the side and the gap is rather tight, I am not very tall and the position of where it has fallen means that I sometimes have to risk hitting my head of the window sill or unit, or I can take the third option of drip drying …. eew a bump on the head it is.

Bonnie’s latest therapist, a private one, is brilliant and has recently tried to work through some of these issues with Bonnie. She is aware though, as are we, that the work involved in treating OCD is a long process and its hard work, very emotionally upsetting for Bonnie and tends to set her back for a while before you begin to see the improvement. We have collectedly decided therefore that it may have to be put on the back burner for now. For now Bonnie will continue to paint, read and train her dog and find time to distract herself from these worrying thoughts.

Distraction is something that most of us are currently doing; I have been gardening more now than I have ever been. It is important to find ways of making our lives seem good again and I have reduced the amount of time that I look at social media and the news, I find it all too much and it brings me back down to life with a bump. Put aside the financial worries and the issues of schooling our lives are what matter the most and I am very lucky not to have had loved ones taken by this horrendous virus. I am reminded that we should always choose our battles and I can therefore continue to live in my little distracted world and tackle the ivy growing on the walls, the war of fighting OCD is for another day.